What Happens If You Die Without a Will?

June 11, 2025

No matter where you live, dying without a will is going to lead to a costly, stressful and expensive experience for loved ones. It will also make distributing assets more complicated than necessary. A recent article from the Daily Journal, “Intestate succession: The risks and complications of dying without a will,” makes a strong case for having an estate plan, including a will, prepared by an experienced estate planning attorney. So what happens if you die without a will?

When there is no will, assets must be submitted to a local court to be probated, including transferring legal title to property from the decedent to heirs. Most probate proceedings take at least 18 months and, in some cases, can extend to several years. There are attorney and administrative fees based on the gross value of the assets plus taxable gains on sales and receipts.

What is a very rough estimate of costs for an estate with a total value of $1 million when there is no will? While it varies by jurisdiction, a total cost of $30,000 is not unusual. Add costs like maintaining a property, paying a mortgage and other expenses; you can see why having a will is better.

Another reason to have a will: the delays of probate can make it difficult for the estate to pay expenses. If the personal representative (executor) needs to pay bills but the estate account is not funded, even more complexities and costs will occur.

Laws vary from state to state over who receives the estate assets when there is no will. California is a community property state, so that the spouse will receive all the community property and a portion of the separate property. How much separate property will be received depends upon the number of children, grandchildren, living parents or siblings and their own children.

In most states, if you happen to die without a will, the distribution of assets is governed by kinship. If there is no surviving spouse, the estate may pass equally to children or their children. However, the court may need to search for blood relatives without children or grandchildren. If you have no children but have relatives you haven’t spoken to for years and no will, they may become your heirs.

The simplest way to prevent a nightmare for your loved ones is to consult an experienced estate planning attorney and create an estate plan, including a Will, Power of Attorney and Healthcare Proxy.

A will is used to name a guardian for minor children, an executor to administer the estate and set the terms for the distribution of property. Without a will, the court makes these decisions, including who will raise minor children and where they will live. A court-appointed guardian will not be the same as a beloved family member, altering the course of children’s lives. For parents of young children, this should motivate an appointment with an estate planning attorney.

Estate planning also includes a detailed check on the ownership status of accounts for the option to name a designated beneficiary. Insurance policies, investment accounts, pensions and bank accounts will likely allow a beneficiary to be named. These assets will go directly to designated people, no matter what your will says or if, despite reading this article, you decline to have a will created.

Real financial and emotional headaches can happen if you die without a will. Whatever your situation and wherever you live, you’ll want a will created to leave a legacy of caring for your loved ones. If you would like to learn more about probate, please visit our previous posts.

Reference: Daily Journal (May 5, 2025) “Intestate succession: The risks and complications of dying without a will”

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What’s the Difference Between Estate and Trust Administration?

June 9, 2025

When loved ones die, their assets don’t automatically transfer to heirs. Whether the decedent had a will, a trust, or both, someone must carry out their wishes and follow legal steps to ensure that everything is distributed properly. This is where estate administration and trust administration come in. What’s the difference between estate and trust administration?

Both processes involve managing assets, paying debts and ensuring that beneficiaries receive what they are entitled to. However, the similarities end there. The legal structures, court involvement and administrative duties vary significantly depending on whether the assets are passing through probate or being managed under a trust.

Understanding the distinction helps families avoid delays, prevent disputes and choose the right planning tools.

What Is Estate Administration?

Estate administration refers to the legal process of settling a deceased person’s affairs when assets are passed through a will or when no will exists. This process is commonly known as probate.

In probate, a court oversees the distribution of the decedent’s property. The executor named in the will (or an administrator appointed by the court if there is no will) is responsible for:

Collecting and inventorying assets
Notifying creditors and paying valid debts
Filing tax returns
Distributing remaining assets to beneficiaries according to the will or state intestacy laws

The probate process can take several months or longer, depending on the complexity of the estate, state laws and whether disputes arise. While probate ensures court oversight and accountability, it can also be public, time-consuming and costly.

What Is Trust Administration?

Trust administration occurs when a person dies with a valid trust, typically a revocable living trust that becomes irrevocable upon death. Assets titled in the name of the trust avoid probate and are instead managed privately by the named trustee.

The trustee’s duties include:

Identifying and managing trust assets
Notifying beneficiaries
Paying debts and taxes
Distributing trust property according to the trust’s terms

Unlike probate, trust administration usually does not require court involvement. This results in faster, more private handling of the estate. However, the trustee is still legally obligated to act in the best interests of the beneficiaries and follow the terms of the trust precisely.

Trustees may still need legal or financial guidance, especially if the trust includes business interests, real estate, or ongoing support for a minor or special needs beneficiary.

The Roles of Trust and Estate Administration

What’s the difference between estate and trust administration? Neither estate nor trust administration is inherently better. Instead, they serve different purposes depending on the family’s needs and the deceased’s planning goals.

Trusts can streamline the asset distribution process, reduce court involvement and protect privacy. However, they require planning during life to fund the trust and title assets properly. A will, by contrast, is simpler to create but often leads to a lengthier probate process after death.

In many cases, a comprehensive estate plan includes both a will to address any remaining assets outside the trust and a trust to manage major property.

Proper planning with a qualified estate planning attorney ensures that the chosen administrator or trustee understands their role and is legally equipped to handle responsibilities smoothly. If you would like to learn more about estate administration, please visit our previous posts.

Reference: Justia (October 2024) “Trust Administration Law”

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Understanding the Essentials of Social Security Survivor Benefits

June 4, 2025

It took nearly two years for one woman to obtain her Social Security survivor benefits, despite her three decades of working in a county District Attorney’s office and knowing how to navigate government systems. Ironically, the very same systems created to help widows and widowers during a time of grief end up adding to their stress, says a recent article from Next Avenue, “’What I Learned About Survivor Benefits After My Husband Died.’” Perhaps the most essential way to prevent problems is to take care of any possible snags while your spouse or partner is still living. This starts with understanding the essentials of survivor benefits for Social Security, pensions, or annuities. It also includes reviewing the names of account beneficiaries.

Three facts to bear in mind:

When a spouse dies, the surviving spouse does not receive two benefits. They receive one Social Security benefit, usually the higher of the two amounts. Planning for the loss of one of the two checks is essential.
Survivor benefits are based on two things. First, the spouses’ age when they pass, and second, the surviving spouse’s age when claiming surviving benefits. Those already collecting benefits can switch to the higher of the two benefits.
Even if the decedent spouse hadn’t filed for Social Security at their death, the survivors’ benefit amount is based on the amount the decedent would have received at their Full Retirement age (FRA). If the spouse were older than the FRA when they died, their benefit amount would be adjusted for those years.

The widow wasn’t expecting two checks, and she knew she was entitled to 100% of her spouse’s benefit because she had been married for at least nine months and didn’t remarry before turning 60. She also had claimed her survivor benefit after reaching at least FRA for survivor benefits, which has a different set of rules than regular FRA. The FRA is 66 and 4 months for survivor benefits if born in 1958. It’s 66 and 6 months for those born in 1959 and rises to age 67 for those born in 1962 or later.

She knew her husband’s benefits were higher than hers, but didn’t know how much higher. This one detail was the missing fact, causing her benefits to be tied up for more than 18 months. She needed to provide endless verifications, identification, and other documents to get it figured out.

Here’s what you need to know to avoid or at least minimize the stress of collecting survivor benefits:

Report the death of a spouse to Social Security as soon as possible.
Have an original death certificate.
Your own and your spouse’s Social Security numbers
Your birth certificate
A marriage certificate if you’re a surviving spouse.
Divorce papers if you’re applying as a surviving divorced spouse.
SSNs for any dependent children and their birth certificates
The most recent W-2 Wage and Tax statement or the latest federal self-employment tax returns.
The name of your bank and account number for direct deposits.

Planning for survivor benefits should be included as you go through the estate planning process. Your estate planning attorney will have helpful tips to ensure both spouses understand the essentials of survivor benefits for Social Security, so you are well protected and prepared for one of life’s hardest events. If you would like to learn more about social security and estate planning, please visit our previous posts.

Reference: Next Avenue (May 7, 2025) “’What I Learned About Survivor Benefits After My Husband Died’”

Beneficiary Designations Usually Take Precedence over Will

June 2, 2025

Estate planning is more than just writing a will. Some of people’s most valuable assets—retirement accounts, life insurance policies, and certain bank accounts—do not pass through a will at all. Instead, these assets are controlled by beneficiary designations filed with financial institutions. This distinction is critical. If the information in a will conflicts with what’s listed on a beneficiary form, the beneficiary designations usually takes precedence over a will. Understanding how these two tools work together helps prevent unintended outcomes, legal disputes, and family confusion.

How Beneficiary Designations Work

Beneficiary designations are instructions you provide directly to financial institutions indicating who should receive specific assets upon your death. These forms are typically used for:

Life insurance policies
IRAs and 401(k)s
Payable-on-death (POD) or transfer-on-death (TOD) accounts
Annuities and some brokerage accounts

When you pass away, the institution distributes the asset to the named beneficiary—no probate required. Because these transfers occur outside of the will, courts and executors are not involved.

This is why it’s crucial to keep these designations updated. For example, an outdated form listing an ex-spouse can result in that person receiving your retirement account even if your will says otherwise.

When the Will and Beneficiary Form Don’t Match

If your will names your son as the heir to your IRA but your beneficiary form lists your daughter, the financial institution must follow the form, not the will. The same applies if your will states that all assets should be divided equally among your children, but a retirement account names only one of them.

These inconsistencies can create confusion, especially if family members interpret the will as the “final word.” Unfortunately, courts always side with the financial institution’s records when a valid beneficiary form is in place.

That’s why periodic reviews of beneficiary designations are essential, especially after significant life events such as marriage, divorce, birth of a child, or death of a loved one.

When the Will Takes Priority

Assets not subject to beneficiary designations typically pass through probate and are governed by the terms of the will. These may include:

Personal property (furniture, jewelry, household goods)
Real estate not held in joint ownership or a trust.
Bank or investment accounts without a TOD or POD designation

In these cases, the executor follows the will’s instructions, and the assets are distributed through probate. For this reason, a will is still a vital part of every estate plan—but it is only one piece of the puzzle.

Coordinating Your Estate Plan

Beneficiary designations usually takes precedence over a will. Ideally, your beneficiary designations, will, and trust documents should work together to avoid conflicts. An estate planning attorney can help review each component, confirm that assets are appropriately titled, and ensure your wishes are carried out consistently across all accounts and documents.

If you intend for a trust to receive retirement funds or life insurance proceeds, you must name the trust as a beneficiary or reference it in your will. Failing to do so may result in assets going to the wrong person or being subject to unnecessary taxes.

Estate planning is not a one-time event. Regular updates ensure that your legal documents reflect your current wishes, relationships, and financial circumstances. If you would like to learn more about beneficiary designations, please visit our previous posts.

Reference: Forbes (June 2, 2015) “Your Will And Trusts Aren’t Enough: Using Beneficiary Designations As An Estate Plan”

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Older Couples Should Consider Premarital Agreement

May 29, 2025

Marriage later in life brings special joys—and specific legal and financial considerations. Whether it’s a second marriage, a partnership after raising children, or finding love after retirement, older couples often have more complex financial situations than younger newlyweds. Older couples should consider a premarital agreement.

Assets, retirement savings, real estate and inheritances accumulated over decades must be handled with care. A premarital agreement (often called a prenuptial agreement) is one of the most practical tools to protect individual and family interests. Far from being a sign of mistrust, a well-crafted agreement fosters transparency, protects loved ones and reduces the risk of disputes if the marriage ends through death or divorce.

Why Older Couples Should Plan with a Premarital Agreement

Older couples frequently bring established financial histories into marriage. They may own homes, businesses, investment portfolios, or have obligations like alimony or child support from previous relationships. Some may wish to preserve assets for adult children or grandchildren.

Without a premarital agreement, state laws—rather than personal wishes—may determine how property is divided upon divorce or death. In many cases, a surviving spouse is entitled to a significant portion of the estate, even if the deceased spouse intended to leave more to children from a prior marriage.

A premarital agreement allows couples to customize these outcomes, ensuring that their wishes are respected and that their marriage starts with full financial clarity.

Key Issues to Address in a Premarital Agreement

Premarital agreements typically address how assets and debts will be handled both during the marriage and in the event of divorce or death. Common topics include:

Identifying separate versus marital property
Defining how jointly acquired assets will be divided
Specifying inheritance rights for children from previous relationships
Clarifying responsibility for debts incurred before or during the marriage
Determining spousal support or waiving it altogether

Couples may also include agreements about healthcare decision-making, although these issues are often handled through separate estate planning documents.

While some topics, like child custody or child support for minor children, cannot typically be negotiated in advance, most financial and property-related matters are fair game.

Protecting Heirs and Family Interests

For older individuals with children from previous marriages, a premarital agreement can protect family inheritances. Without one, surviving spouses could inherit property that parents intended to pass directly on to their children.

Using a premarital agreement in combination with updated wills, trusts and beneficiary designations creates a comprehensive plan that reflects your true intentions and avoids accidental disinheritance.

It’s also an act of love—shielding family members from costly, painful legal disputes and ensuring that everyone understands and respects your wishes.

Premarital Agreements Strengthen Communication

Discussing finances can be uncomfortable. However, it builds stronger foundations. A premarital agreement encourages open conversations about money, values and expectations. It forces couples to talk about important topics—retirement plans, caregiving needs and financial obligations to others—that might otherwise be overlooked.

Rather than undermining romance, these discussions show respect for each other’s histories and futures. They create shared understanding and prevent surprises down the road.

The Importance of Independent Legal Advice for Each Spouse

For a premarital agreement to be legally enforceable, each party should have their own attorney review the document. This ensures that both individuals understand their rights and obligations and that the agreement cannot be challenged later due to claims of coercion or misunderstanding.

Older couples should consider a premarital agreement. Working with an experienced estate planning or family law attorney ensures that the agreement is tailored to your state’s specific requirements and your unique circumstances. If you would like to learn more about planning for older couples, please visit our previous posts.

References: American College of Trust and Estate Counsel (ACTEC) (Nov. 5, 2020) “What Is a Prenuptial Agreement?” and Hello! Magazine (April 2025) “King Charles and Queen Camilla’s Separate Homes: Was a Marital Agreement Involved?”

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Including Siblings in Estate Planning for a Child with Special Needs

May 22, 2025

When parents plan for the future of a child with special needs, they often focus on legal and financial tools, like special needs trusts and government benefits. However, one crucial group is usually left out of the conversation: the siblings. Siblings may one day step into caregiving or advocacy roles, formally or informally. They may be expected to help manage a trust, ensure their brother or sister receives appropriate care, or provide emotional support. Including siblings in the estate planning process for a child with special needs creates a foundation for smoother transitions, reduces misunderstandings and gives everyone a clearer sense of their role.

Why Siblings Matter in Long-Term Planning

Siblings are likely to be the longest-standing relationships in a person’s life. As parents age or pass away, brothers or sisters often remain. Even when a sibling won’t serve as a primary caregiver or trustee, they will likely be involved in day-to-day support, communication with care providers, or an emotional anchor.

Nevertheless, siblings are often unaware of their parents’ intentions. They may not understand the purpose of a special needs trust or how decisions will be made after the parents are no longer involved. This lack of clarity can lead to confusion, resentment, or even legal conflict, particularly if siblings are also beneficiaries of the estate.

Opening the Conversation

Including siblings starts with honest communication. Parents should share the basics of their estate plan, explain how decisions have been made and invite questions or concerns. Topics may include:

Who will serve as the trustee or successor trustee of a special needs trust
How resources will be allocated among siblings
What expectations (if any) exist for caregiving or advocacy
How government benefits are being protected through legal planning

This conversation doesn’t need to happen all at once. Instead, family discussions can gradually unfold as siblings mature and understand each other’s needs. The key is ensuring that they feel informed and supported, not burdened.

Legal and Financial Education for Siblings of Special Needs Children

Parents should also ensure that siblings have access to the legal and financial information they may need someday for the family or the child with special needs. This may include providing copies of estate planning documents, explaining the function of the special needs trust, or walking them through how public benefits, like Medicaid or SSI, are affected by financial support.

Naming a sibling as a future trustee, power of attorney, or healthcare proxy without adequate preparation sets them up for stress and potential failure. Parents should consider naming a professional fiduciary or co-trustee to provide support if a sibling is unwilling or unable to serve in these roles.

Creating a Team Approach in Special Needs Planning

Planning doesn’t have to fall on one person’s shoulders. Families often succeed by creating a “care team” approach that includes parents, siblings, professionals and close family friends. Roles can be shared or divided—for example, one sibling might handle legal decisions while another provides social support.

Clear documentation of these roles within estate planning documents and written letters of intent helps ensure consistency if multiple people are involved in the care or oversight of a sibling with special needs.

Strengthening Family Bonds Through Inclusion

Including siblings in the estate planning process for a child with special needs isn’t just a practical decision—it’s an emotional one. It signals trust, values their role and lays the groundwork for cooperation. It also honors the future relationship between siblings, ensuring that love and respect continue even after the parents are gone.

Planning with siblings in mind helps prevent conflict, confusion and unintended consequences. Most importantly, it ensures that people with special needs receive the lifelong support they deserve. If you would like to learn more about special needs planning, please visit our previous posts.

Reference: MassMutual (July 19, 2023) “Living with special needs: The sibling perspective”

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Ways to Avoid Estate Disputes between Stepchildren

May 20, 2025

Estate planning in blended families comes with unique challenges. When stepchildren, stepparents and biological children are all involved, assumptions and emotions can complicate even the most well-intentioned plans. Conflicts over assets, inheritances and decision-making are more likely without a clear and legally enforceable estate plan. There are ways to avoid estate disputes between stepchildren.

While no estate plan can eliminate all tension, families who plan proactively can avoid common pitfalls that lead to disputes. Clarity, transparency and the proper legal tools make it possible to protect both your wishes and the well-being of your loved ones.

Why Stepchild Disputes are Common in Inheritance Planning

Stepchildren are not automatically entitled to inherit from a stepparent’s estate unless they’ve been legally adopted or are specifically named in a will or trust. This could lead to resentment, mainly if a close emotional bond existed during life but wasn’t reflected in the legal documents.

Alternatively, biological children may worry that a new spouse or stepchildren will “take” what was intended for them. If a surviving spouse remarries or rewrites the will, children from a prior marriage may be disinherited altogether. These fears—real or imagined—can cause deep family rifts and even legal battles.

Strategies for Preventing Conflict in Blended Families

The best way to prevent disputes is through clear and detailed estate planning. A professionally drafted will or trust should specify exactly how assets will be divided and why. This includes naming all intended beneficiaries, assigning specific gifts and documenting the roles of trustees or executors.

A revocable living trust can offer more control than a simple will for families with significant assets or complicated dynamics. Trusts allow for staged distributions, protect privacy and make it harder to contest inheritance decisions.

Another strategy is using prenuptial or postnuptial agreements to clarify what each spouse brings into the marriage and how it should be handled upon death. This provides peace of mind for both spouses and their children.

Communicating Inheritance Expectations Early

Estate plans are most effective when they don’t come as a surprise. Open communication is crucial, especially in blended families. While these conversations may feel awkward, they help set expectations, reduce suspicion and provide clarity.

Explaining contentious decisions, such as trust establishment or asset division, is essential to clarity and family cohesion. Explaining why one child receives more support than another can help family members understand your intentions and reduce the likelihood of conflict after your passing.

A written letter of intent, included with your will or trust, can be used further to explain your wishes and the reasoning behind them. This document has no legal authority but can be powerful in easing emotional tensions.

Choosing the Right Fiduciaries

Naming an executor or trustee perceived as neutral can help avoid conflict. In blended families, appointing one child or stepchild over another can raise concerns about fairness. Sometimes, a professional fiduciary—such as an attorney or trust company—may be the best option.

This approach ensures that your estate is administered according to the law and the terms of your plan, rather than through family politics. It also reduces the burden on loved ones who may already be coping with grief and loss.

Updating the Plan after Major Changes

Blended families often experience significant life changes—remarriage, new children, moves, or the death of a former spouse. Any of these events should prompt a review of your estate plan. Beneficiary designations, wills and trusts should reflect your current wishes and family structure.

Outdated documents can create confusion or lead to unintended outcomes. Regular reviews—ideally every few years or after significant life changes—keep your plan current and effective. Discuss with an estate planning attorney the ways your family can avoid estate disputes between stepchildren. If you would like to learn more about blended families and estate planning, please visit our previous posts.

Reference: The Wall Street Journal (June 1, 2024) “The Brady Bunch Breaks Down: Estate Fights Tear Stepfamilies Apart”

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Special Needs Trusts Often Need a Professional Trustee

May 15, 2025

When a family sets up a special needs trust (SNT), they often assume a relative will be the best person to manage it. After all, who knows the beneficiary better? However, while personal connection matters, administering a special needs trust is a complex responsibility that involves navigating benefit eligibility rules, tax laws, investment strategies and strict reporting requirements. Special needs trusts often need a professional trustee, not a family member.

A professional trustee brings the objectivity, experience and systems needed to manage the trust in the beneficiary’s best interest, while avoiding costly missteps. In many cases, appointing a professional trustee alongside a family member offers the best balance between personal care and experienced oversight.

The Role of a Trustee in a Special Needs Trust

A special needs trust is designed to preserve a beneficiary’s eligibility for means-tested public benefits, such as Supplemental Security Income (SSI) and Medicaid, while still providing for supplemental needs like transportation, education, recreation, and medical services not covered by government programs.

The trustee is legally obligated to manage and distribute funds according to the trust document and government regulations. Mistakes—such as paying for rent, giving cash to the beneficiary, or failing to keep detailed records—can result in reduced or complete loss of benefits.

The trustee must also file tax returns, monitor investments, communicate with care providers and adapt the trust’s use as the beneficiary’s needs change. This is not a one-time duty—it’s a long-term commitment, often lasting the beneficiary’s lifetime.

Why Family Members May Not Be the Best Fit

While family members may be deeply committed to the beneficiary’s well-being, they are not always equipped to handle a special needs trust’s administrative and legal responsibilities. The emotional stress of caregiving and the pressure of trust administration can lead to burnout or mistakes.

Conflicts of interest may also arise. Disagreements between siblings, caregivers, or co-trustees can create tension or lead to disputes over how funds are spent. Even well-meaning relatives may make decisions that unintentionally disqualify the beneficiary from receiving vital support.

Family members often lack experience with trust management, government benefits and the financial tools necessary to grow and preserve trust assets. Professional trustees are trained to meet these demands and provide consistent, unbiased oversight.

Benefits of a Professional Trustee

A professional trustee—whether a corporate fiduciary, bank, or attorney—offers several advantages. They are neutral, knowledgeable and focused on compliance. Their systems are designed to track distributions, file taxes and coordinate with public agencies and service providers.

They also offer continuity. A family member may age, become ill, or be unable to continue serving as trustee, especially if the trust must last for decades. A professional trustee ensures that the administration will continue smoothly regardless of family life changes.

Some families choose a hybrid approach by naming a family member as a co-trustee or trust protector. This allows the family to provide input and maintain a relationship with the beneficiary, while the professional trustee handles technical and administrative responsibilities.

Making the Right Choice

Deciding who will manage a special needs trust should not be rushed. Consider the complexity of the beneficiary’s needs, the size of the trust and the family’s long-term capacity to manage those responsibilities.

Special needs trusts often need a professional trustee, not a family member. An elder law or special needs planning attorney can help you weigh your options and structure the trust to meet both legal standards and family expectations. The goal is to preserve benefits, maintain financial security and support the beneficiary in living independently and meaningfully. If you would like to learn more about special needs issues and estate planning, please visit our previous posts.

Reference: Special Needs Alliance (October 2012) “When a Family Member Serves as Trustee – Fair and Honest Is Not Enough”

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Steps to Avoid Inheritance Issues in Second Marriages

May 13, 2025

Second marriages often bring joy, stability and a fresh start. However, they can also create complicated estate planning challenges. When one or both spouses have children from previous relationships, the risk of conflict over inheritance increases dramatically. Individuals often assume that love and goodwill will prevent disputes. However, without clear legal documentation, misunderstandings, unintentional disinheritance and even litigation can follow. Protecting your spouse and your children—biological and step—requires planning that accounts for family dynamics, legal priorities and financial realities. There are steps you can take to avoid inheritance issues in a second marriage.

Understand How the Law Treats Second Marriages

State intestacy laws (those that apply when someone dies without a will) typically prioritize spouses and biological children. In many cases, if a person dies without a clear estate plan, the surviving spouse will receive a significant share, possibly even everything, leaving stepchildren with little or nothing.

Even with a will, challenges can arise. A surviving spouse may claim an “elective share,” a legal right to a portion of the estate that can override the terms of a will. Children from a previous relationship may be unintentionally disinherited if all assets pass to the surviving spouse, who then distributes them according to their own will, or not at all.

These risks are exceptionally high in cases where only one spouse brought significant assets to the marriage or when there is a considerable age difference, business ownership, or a family history of conflict.

Use Trusts to Protect Both Spouse and Children

One of the most effective tools for second marriage estate planning is a trust. A revocable living trust allows you to maintain control over your assets during your lifetime, while outlining exactly how they should be distributed after your death.

For example, a Qualified Terminable Interest Property (QTIP) trust can provide income to a surviving spouse for life, with the remainder passing to the deceased spouse’s children. This structure protects both parties: the surviving spouse is financially supported, and the children are assured a share of the estate later.

Trusts can also help avoid probate, preserve privacy and reduce the risk of disputes. Unlike a simple will, a trust allows for more detailed instructions and layered planning.

Keep Beneficiary Designations Up to Date

Many assets—like life insurance policies, retirement accounts and bank accounts—pass directly to the person named as a beneficiary, regardless of what’s written in your will. That means an ex-spouse could still receive your IRA if you never updated the paperwork.

Review your beneficiary designations after remarriage to ensure that they reflect your current wishes. In blended families, dividing assets across multiple accounts may be appropriate to benefit both your spouse and children directly.

You should also consider how these accounts fit into your broader estate plan to ensure no one is unintentionally left out.

Communicate Your Intentions Clearly

Estate disputes often stem from unmet expectations. Children may assume they will inherit certain assets, only to learn after a parent’s death that those assets were left to a stepparent. Likewise, a surviving spouse may be surprised to learn that children from a previous marriage are co-owners of the family home.

The best way to avoid this confusion is to talk openly with family members about your wishes. Explain your decisions, address concerns and show how your plan provides for all parties involved. These conversations may be uncomfortable. However, they are often the most effective way to prevent conflict.

Taking these steps to avoid inheritance issues in a second marriage can mean the difference between family harmony and chaos. Putting these intentions in writing with the help of an estate planning attorney ensures that everyone’s rights and responsibilities are legally protected. If you would like to learn more about inheritance and estate planning, please visit our previous posts.

References: CBC News (April 1, 2025) “Director Norman Jewison’s wife cut him off from family, coerced him to change $30M will, lawsuits claimed” and Marriage.com (Oct 12, 2023) “5 Tips to Avoid Inheritance Issues in Second Marriages”

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The Estate of The Union Season 4|Episode 3 is out now!

May 7, 2025

The Estate of The Union Season 4|Episode 3 is out now! The Catholic cardinals are in the process of electing a new pope. While that can seem like a riveting process, a much quieter group, Catholic Charities of Central Texas, is working behind the scenes helping the people who need it the most.

In this edition of the Estate of the Union brought to you by Texas Trust Law, we are fortunate to have Kara Henderson, Director of Marketing, for Catholic Charities of Central Texas as a guest. Kara explains the challenges faced by our fellow Texans and how her organization provides a loving waystation to move people to more successful lives.

Plus, Kara has a manner of explaining all of this in a tone and form that make it easy to “get”.

In each episode of The Estate of The Union podcast, host and lawyer Brad Wiewel will give valuable insights into the confusing world of estate planning, making an often daunting subject easier to understand. It is Estate Planning Made Simple! The Estate of The Union Season 4|Episode 3 is out now! The episode can be found on Spotify, Apple podcasts, or anywhere you get your podcasts. If you would prefer to watch the video version, please visit our YouTube page. Please click on the links to listen to or watch the new installment of The Estate of The Union podcast. We hope you enjoy it.

Texas Trust Law focuses its practice exclusively in the area of wills, probate, estate planning, asset protection, and special needs planning. Brad Wiewel is Board Certified in Estate Planning and Probate Law by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization. We provide estate planning services, asset protection planning, business planning, and retirement exit strategies.

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What Happens If You Die Without a Will?

What’s the Difference Between Estate and Trust Administration?

What Is Estate Administration?

What Is Trust Administration?

The Roles of Trust and Estate Administration

Beneficiary Designations Usually Take Precedence over Will

How Beneficiary Designations Work

When the Will and Beneficiary Form Don’t Match

When the Will Takes Priority

Coordinating Your Estate Plan

Older Couples Should Consider Premarital Agreement

Why Older Couples Should Plan with a Premarital Agreement

Key Issues to Address in a Premarital Agreement

Protecting Heirs and Family Interests

Premarital Agreements Strengthen Communication

The Importance of Independent Legal Advice for Each Spouse

Ways to Avoid Estate Disputes between Stepchildren

Why Stepchild Disputes are Common in Inheritance Planning

Strategies for Preventing Conflict in Blended Families

Communicating Inheritance Expectations Early

Choosing the Right Fiduciaries

Updating the Plan after Major Changes

Steps to Avoid Inheritance Issues in Second Marriages

The Estate of The Union Season 4|Episode 3 is out now!

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